{"id":299,"date":"2017-04-24T21:41:22","date_gmt":"2017-04-24T21:41:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/?p=299"},"modified":"2017-04-28T22:11:13","modified_gmt":"2017-04-28T22:11:13","slug":"howdoyoumakefriendswithacatthatisshy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/howdoyoumakefriendswithacatthatisshy\/","title":{"rendered":"How Do You Make Friends With A Cat That Is Shy"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\t\t<style type=\"text\/css\">\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 {\n\t\t\t\tmargin: auto;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-item {\n\t\t\t\tfloat: left;\n\t\t\t\tmargin-top: 10px;\n\t\t\t\ttext-align: center;\n\t\t\t\twidth: 25%;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 img {\n\t\t\t\tborder: 2px solid #cfcfcf;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-caption {\n\t\t\t\tmargin-left: 0;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t\/* see gallery_shortcode() in wp-includes\/media.php *\/\n\t\t<\/style>\n\t\t<div id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-299 gallery-columns-4 gallery-size-thumbnail'><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/howdoyoumakefriendswithacatthatisshy\/586-506\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/586-506-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"How Do You Make Friends With A Cat That Is Shy?\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-348\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-348'>\n\t\t\t\tLike people, cats can be shy. \n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/howdoyoumakefriendswithacatthatisshy\/756-506-2\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/756-506-1-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"How Do You Make Friends With A Cat That Is Shy?\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-350\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-350'>\n\t\t\t\tIn this type of situation, my best advice is to let them come to you rather than you go to them.  \n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/howdoyoumakefriendswithacatthatisshy\/821-506-2\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/821-506-1-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"How Do You Make Friends With A Cat That Is Shy?\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-351\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-351'>\n\t\t\t\tHowever, if he is not showing any particular interest in you, then contain your disappointment and make yourself at ease in another corner of the room.\n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/howdoyoumakefriendswithacatthatisshy\/592-506\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/04\/592-506-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"How Do You Make Friends With A Cat That Is Shy?\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-349\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-349'>\n\t\t\t\tLet him build a trust feeling for you before you make any friendly gestures\n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><br style=\"clear: both\" \/>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n<p><strong>How Do You Make Friends With A Cat That Is Shy?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Like people, cats can be shy. You know yourself about such situations as there have probably been heaps of times when you yourself have tended to stay in a corner when confronted by new people or a new person who you really weren\u2019t feeling comfortable about meeting.<\/p>\n<p>In this type of situation, my best advice is to let them come to you rather than you go to them.\u00a0 That way, no boundaries are crossed, things are not said causing embarrassment, and lasting memories are not made to you or the cat for the rest of your lives.\u00a0 I know that sounds extreme, but in a real up close personal situation dreaded moments have been carefully avoided in the most delicate situations by adopting this safe approach.<\/p>\n<p>You might really be interested in this particular cat.\u00a0 However, if he is not showing any particular interest in you, then contain your disappointment and make yourself at ease in another corner of the room.\u00a0 By allowing yourself to seem uninterested, then a shy cat can approach you in his own cautious way to check you out without feeling alarmed.\u00a0 Usually if your meeting with their owner is to span several, several minutes, like an hour or two, then this gives their cat plenty of time to suss you out from way over there. Playing being aloof can be fun, as you can always watch out of the corner of your eye when there are lulls in the conversation \u2013 and you both can begin to play the little game between you very subtly.<\/p>\n<p>Eventually he will start to feel safe around your presence in the room and he might saunter out after a while and he might not.\u00a0 If he does, then make sure that you keep him at arm\u2019s length as he is being very careful to judge what type of person you are.\u00a0 Maybe his human will enlighten you as to why he is behaving in such a way.\u00a0 He might be new to the family and maybe been rescued from an abusive situation \u2013 who knows?\u00a0 Everyone has their story and why shouldn\u2019t this cat have their own story.\u00a0 You probably have lots of them that make up who you are \u2013 the same goes for him.<\/p>\n<p>If there is a basket of toys around, then a good thing would be to throw something for him to play with.\u00a0 His response will either cheer you up or keep you down where you are anyway.\u00a0 Make sure you throw them away from you, so that there is no risk of interference on your part when he tries to retrieve it.\u00a0 Rooms are usually wide as well as long and there are doors that lead off them as well \u2013 so you have plenty of opportunities to play without seeming to play with him.\u00a0 No doubt, once the retrieval has taken place, then he will play with it for a while \u2013 you will notice when the interest has been lost when he totally abandons it and leaves it alone for quite some time.\u00a0 Then you know that it is safe for you to get it back yourself and to throw it again.\u00a0 Whatever you do, reverence her space by holding back on picking it up again.\u00a0 The last thing you want to do is frighten him back to his corner because you chose the wrong moment to pick it up and take it off him.<\/p>\n<p>If there are toys in the basket that are attached to string or something similar, then be gentle and play that way.\u00a0 Perhaps the toy can crawl slowly back towards you.\u00a0 Perhaps the string will go a long way from you and this will give the cat plenty of space to bring out the hunter in him.\u00a0 Twitching movements and movements that imitate something of stealth are better movements than seemingly forcing him to come too near you.\u00a0 Have patience \u2013 he might just be content to watch the toy moving along and around the ground for a long while before he actually decides I want to play this game.\u00a0 Obviously something has happened in his past that is making him anxious and nervous around you.\u00a0 Let him settle down.\u00a0 Let him calm himself down.\u00a0 Let him build a trust feeling for you before you make any friendly gestures that could involve you both being in close proximity to each other.<\/p>\n<p>Our daughter has a cat who only knows 4 people: her, her husband, and their two adult children.\u00a0 They live in an apartment 39 stories off the ground.\u00a0 He spends his days in their bed or just looking at life outside the window and all the little people and things that move around down there.\u00a0 He was very shy when we first arrived on the scene for a few weeks holiday.\u00a0 It took perhaps a week before he allowed us to actually see him eating his food in the kitchen area.\u00a0 And then it took another few days before he would actually just sit on the carpet near us.\u00a0 My husband has such a fondness for cats, so he was feeling quite put out that this cat didn\u2019t appear to like him when ALL cats previous to this instinctively came to him ALWAYS.\u00a0 By the time it was time for us to leave and come home, they had developed a friendship in that the cat would get up on his knee and let him pet him.\u00a0 So I guess it will be quite a while when we get to visit them again, before we know whether the new friendship will be permanent or was just temporary at the time.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Thanks for reading my blog.<br \/>\nPlease 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