{"id":792,"date":"2017-06-16T05:26:11","date_gmt":"2017-06-16T05:26:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/?p=792"},"modified":"2017-06-23T05:52:01","modified_gmt":"2017-06-23T05:52:01","slug":"howtodealwithgriefpt6","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/howtodealwithgriefpt6\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Deal With Grief Pt 6"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\t\t<style type=\"text\/css\">\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 {\n\t\t\t\tmargin: auto;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-item {\n\t\t\t\tfloat: left;\n\t\t\t\tmargin-top: 10px;\n\t\t\t\ttext-align: center;\n\t\t\t\twidth: 25%;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 img {\n\t\t\t\tborder: 2px solid #cfcfcf;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-caption {\n\t\t\t\tmargin-left: 0;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t\/* see gallery_shortcode() in wp-includes\/media.php *\/\n\t\t<\/style>\n\t\t<div id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-792 gallery-columns-4 gallery-size-thumbnail'><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon portrait'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/howtodealwithgriefpt6\/man-grieving\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/man-grieving-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"How To Deal With Grief Pt 6\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-798\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-798'>\n\t\t\t\tI think that men tend to bottle things up inside them.\n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/howtodealwithgriefpt6\/wellington-hospital\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Wellington-Hospital-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"How To Deal With Grief Pt 6\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-796\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-796'>\n\t\t\t\tvisiting her in the hospital \n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/howtodealwithgriefpt6\/mother\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/mother-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"How To Deal With Grief Pt 6\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-797\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-797'>\n\t\t\t\tWhen we left, she was full of smiles and hugs \n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon portrait'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/howtodealwithgriefpt6\/grief\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/grief-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"How To Deal With Grief Pt 6\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-799\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-799'>\n\t\t\t\tThere is something very powerful in grief.  \n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><br style=\"clear: both\" \/>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n<p><strong>Part 6<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Being alone in your grief is okay too.\u00a0 Do whatever you have to do.\u00a0 Keith is more like that.\u00a0 He is a man.\u00a0 He feels things differently.\u00a0 I think that men tend to bottle things up inside them.\u00a0 Well, I am already proving that because Mottel has been gone many, many years now, and yet since I have been writing books about cats and often mentioning our own experiences with our own cats, it is surprising to me just how much he has grieved silently.<\/p>\n<p>I remember when my own mother passed away.\u00a0 My daughter and I had only just returned home on public transport from visiting her in the hospital not 3 hours earlier.\u00a0 I can still see my daughter climbing all over her bed as she was still crawling then.\u00a0 My mother was ecstatic at the time \u2013 praising her and loving her as only a grandmother can.\u00a0 When we left, she was full of smiles and hugs \u2013 who would have thought that that would be the last time I would set eyes on her again to give me such encouragement?<\/p>\n<p>That was around 2pm.\u00a0 By the time we visited and then we left and caught a bus and a train home, it was 5pm upon reaching our front door.\u00a0 It can\u2019t have been more than 25 minutes when my motherinlaw called me over to answer the phone \u2013 we at the time having just moved into a new home and we didn\u2019t have all the modern things of society installed into it yet.\u00a0 And on the other end of the phone was my brother saying to me, \u201cMum\u2019s gone Debbie.\u201d \u201cGone?\u00a0 Gone where?\u00a0 We have just left her.\u201d\u00a0 \u201cShe\u2019s gone Debbie.\u00a0 She\u2019s dead!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Well, what a huge shock that was.<\/p>\n<p>I was only 24 at the time \u2013 who loses their mother at 24 years of age?\u00a0 Even today when I am now in my 66<sup>th<\/sup> year, I think about her and I break down sometimes.<\/p>\n<p>Grief shared through losing a pet can be just as devastating.\u00a0 It has been for my Keith I realise now.\u00a0 Well, how many more people out there in the world still feel the same over their lost pets.<\/p>\n<p>There is something very powerful in grief.\u00a0 You can be sitting quietly not thinking about anything in particular, only to break down with a sudden memory that is precious to you of something you did together.<\/p>\n<p>Thanks for reading my blog.<br 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