{"id":812,"date":"2017-06-18T06:34:18","date_gmt":"2017-06-18T06:34:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/?p=812"},"modified":"2017-06-23T06:59:51","modified_gmt":"2017-06-23T06:59:51","slug":"howtodealwithgriefpt8","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/howtodealwithgriefpt8\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Deal With Grief Pt 8"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\t\t<style type=\"text\/css\">\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 {\n\t\t\t\tmargin: auto;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-item {\n\t\t\t\tfloat: left;\n\t\t\t\tmargin-top: 10px;\n\t\t\t\ttext-align: center;\n\t\t\t\twidth: 25%;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 img {\n\t\t\t\tborder: 2px solid #cfcfcf;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t#gallery-1 .gallery-caption {\n\t\t\t\tmargin-left: 0;\n\t\t\t}\n\t\t\t\/* see gallery_shortcode() in wp-includes\/media.php *\/\n\t\t<\/style>\n\t\t<div id='gallery-1' class='gallery galleryid-812 gallery-columns-4 gallery-size-thumbnail'><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/howtodealwithgriefpt8\/eating-stuff\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/eating-stuff-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"How To Deal With Grief Pt 8\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-816\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-816'>\n\t\t\t\tfor stuff to eat that I absolutely KNOW is not good for me. \n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/howtodealwithgriefpt8\/pamper-yourself\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/pamper-yourself-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"How To Deal With Grief Pt 8\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-817\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-817'>\n\t\t\t\t.  Indulge in hot soapy baths.  Take yourself off to the movies. Pamper yourself.  \n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/howtodealwithgriefpt5\/get-over-it\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/get-over-it-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"How To Deal With Grief Pt 8\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-787\" srcset=\"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/get-over-it-150x150.jpg 150w, http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/get-over-it-300x298.jpg 300w, http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/get-over-it.jpg 509w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-787'>\n\t\t\t\tIf anyone tries to tell you to \u201cGet Over It!\u201d \u2013 get away from them quickly.\n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><dl class='gallery-item'>\n\t\t\t<dt class='gallery-icon landscape'>\n\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/howtodealwithgriefpt8\/cat-angel\/'><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"http:\/\/debbienicholsononline.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/cat-angel-150x150.jpg\" class=\"attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail\" alt=\"How To Deal With Grief Pt 8\" aria-describedby=\"gallery-1-815\" \/><\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/dt>\n\t\t\t\t<dd class='wp-caption-text gallery-caption' id='gallery-1-815'>\n\t\t\t\tI do believe there are Cat Angels sent to keep our spirits up \n\t\t\t\t<\/dd><\/dl><br style=\"clear: both\" \/>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n<p><strong>Part 8<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If I haven\u2019t already been to the shops and got good food around me, then the first thing I do is start searching through the house for stuff to eat that I absolutely KNOW is not good for me. And try as I might to talk myself out of doing crazy stuff and NOT looking after myself properly, the negatives always seem to win.<\/p>\n<p>That is NOT the way to deal with grief.\u00a0 That is the time when you should be looking your very best.\u00a0 Dress up for that week \u2013 every day \u2013 wear that good dress you have been saving up for \u2013 whenever?.\u00a0 Take the time to put on makeup.\u00a0 Indulge in hot soapy baths.\u00a0 Take yourself off to the movies. Pamper yourself.\u00a0 All of these activities are designed to make you feel good about you. \u00a0Then you can look in the mirror and recover far more quickly because there is no reason to look in the mirror with regret.\u00a0 And when you are on top of the world, you can handle anything.\u00a0 Where does that strength come from?\u00a0 From inside you.\u00a0 You take the time to look good, then that will automatically transfer to that special place inside.\u00a0 Breathing, exercising, doing good things \u2013 life was meant for the living: which means enjoying our bodies and lives for as long as we have left to enjoy them.\u00a0 Plenty enough time to move on when you are ready.<\/p>\n<p>If anyone tries to tell you to \u201cGet Over It!\u201d \u2013 get away from them quickly.<\/p>\n<p>This is your time. If you want to cry, then do it.\u00a0 If you want to lie in your bed, then do it.\u00a0 If you want to be a slob for a few days, then do it.\u00a0 Better that than pretend all is well.\u00a0 We each have to work through things and each of us deals with things differently.\u00a0 \u00a0Just don\u2019t get too far away from being the you that you like about you.<\/p>\n<p>Keep in mind, there is another special kitten or cat waiting for you to love them just as much.\u00a0 Maybe one will just arrive at your door because I do believe there are Cat Angels sent to keep our spirits up when we feel that all is lost. 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